Choosing kindness every day isn’t about anyone other than yourself.
Choosing kindness isn’t about being cheerful all the time or always knowing the right words to say. In fact, kindness is not about anyone else at all.

Kindness starts within You.
Kindness is for You.

Loving Kindness Everyday is here to encourage you to train your mind to feel better.

How do you train your mind to feel better?

Neuroplasticity = Kindness Catches On

Your brain can actually change and learn new ways of thinking. It’s called neuroplasticity. I like to think of it like this: my brain is like an open field. The more I practice “walking” in the direction of kind thoughts and calm feelings, the more my brain starts to “catch on” – in the same way that a field would form a path if I walked it every day.
The brain works the same way.

Eventually, our brains begins to say, “Oh, this is how we do things now.” And over time, that becomes our default setting. So, if you can, choose softness for yourself. Choose calm for yourself.  Choose kindness, understanding that it’s for you. Your brain is listening and following your lead. You are the one in charge!

But how can you choose your thoughts?

Instead of thinking things like, “Ugh, this again. Bad things always happen to me,” and engaging in the victim mentality trick of the mind try choosing a gentler, more supportive thought. Something like, “Okay, alright… this totally sucks. And also, I’ve made it through hard things before. I’m going to make it through this too.”

That’s something to say to Self when things feel heavy. And from there, we can try to shift into care. Sometimes I’ll tell myself, “Maybe I can do something small that brings me comfort right now. Sitting here upset won’t fix it, but being kind to myself might help me feel a little better.”

If you’re feeling overwhelmed, do you think you can try saying something like this, gently, with your hand over your heart if that feels good and natural for you?

“This feels hard right now. And I don’t have to push it away. I can let the feeling be here for a moment. It’s just a feeling… and it can’t last forever. I can allow it, and I can also let some of the tension go.”

Pushing away your feelings or pretending they’re not there doesn’t make them disappear.

Sometimes, that only makes them stay longer, like a child tugging on your sleeve, waiting to be acknowledged. But when you meet yourself with honesty and kindness – when you stop and choose to say, I see you, I love you, I’m here with you, you are not alone, I feel you, and you are still safe. By saying these things to yourself, you create space for peace.

Tackling hard moments with kindness. 
Instead of working on “snapping out of it”, try softening into it.
Feel the feeling. Let it move. Then choose self-love and self-compassion.

Talk to yourself like someone who loves you.
You don’t have to be perfect, just be here for yourself.
Harsh thoughts don’t lead to a soft life.
Ask yourself:
Am I being a friend to myself right now?
Or an talking to myself like an enemy?

Practice gentleness towards yourself.
You have tried your hardest.
Choose compassion over criticism.
Not because it’s easy — because it might not be easy one bit. But you deserve to feel better, don’t you? 
Yes, you do.

And this moment is a chance to start again. 💛